Pet Peeves

I have lots of peeves.  Most of the time I'm good at realizing that things happen and I don't let the peeves bother me for very long.  But there are a couple unforgivable peeves that will set me off.  This is my rant. And my peeves.

Pet Peeve #1: Rudeness while someone is sleeping

IF SOMEONE IS SLEEPING IN THE ROOM, FOR GOODNESS SAKES BE QUIET!

More than once I'll fall asleep in my parent's living room and people will come in and start playing the piano, or I would sleep on a couch, and people would wander in loud (which is forgivable, they didn't know) see me sleeping, and then not take the volume down. 

Pisses me off to high heaven.

OMG.

Pet Peeve #2: Saying something and then not doing it.

This one causes borderline reactions.  I *have* to rely on truth and word of others to survive.  I *have* to trust. If I trust, I can put it and every potential rejection out of my mind.  And every time I trust and it doesn't happen, its a betrayal. 

On the other side, if you lead someone to wait, or inconvenience them because of something you said and didn't follow through on, that's totally unfair. 

And last, if you can't do something, just say no.  If you can't do it, DON'T SAY IT!

Now, there are a couple scenarios for this. Here's an example situation.  One that seems to continue to happen again and again. 

Something is said, and plans are made. 

Example 1: "I'll be there in a bit, hold on." Which leads me to put a hold on my time waiting.
Example 2: "OMG, you haven't seen [movie]? Next wednesday we watch it you can see it with us." - Which leads the expectation that once certain conditions, "Next wednesday when they watch it" are met, I would be joining in.

Scenario Types:

0: Say it but not mean it:
Sure sure, I'm goiing to say what I'm saying to get you to not ask, and plan on doing it without you anyway.

1. Say it, can't follow through, and tell me ahead of time - PERFECT
"Oh, I'm sorry, I told you I'd be there in a bit, but I'm stuck in traffic, here's my ETA."
"Hey, I can't be there when I said, don't wait, I'll let you know when I'm close, start without me"
"Hey, I know I said you could watch this with us tonight, but we actually can't watch it anymore, lets reschedule"
"Hey, I know i said you could watch this, but I have to cancel your appearance here tonight, but I feel bad and lets watch it again friday." - even though I get cut out, someone actually cared to tell me about this, and reschedule with me showing they genuinely felt bad, and it'd suck but I'd be okay with this.

2. Say it, Didn't follow through, and when reminded, cared.
Me: Weren't you going to be here 2 hours ago? We were waiting to start the movie/we didn't do anything else while waiting cause we didn't know when you were going to show up.
Them: I'm so sorry, I know.  That sucked, thanks for waiting, I'll be right there

Me: Remember when we were going to watch this tonight, and you're kinda watching it without me?
Them: Oh, Something occured and you can't come, but lets reschedule.  We will still fulfill what we said. - again, still better than no response.

3.  Say it, didn't follow through, and when reminded, get pissed off, and not care about your word at all

Hey, remember when you said this? 
Why does it matter, we're still doing it without you. Deal with it,

This scenario happens the most.   And it causes betrayals of trust and rejections.  Borderline. 

Instead of apologizing and realize that YOU caused the situation that someone else is stuck in, (expectations, lost time.. etc) people tend to get mad that someone calls them on something they promised, or said earlier, especially when they change their minds and no one was alerted.  Many a movie night and game night had this happen, and when I said, "hey, that's unfair" i got yelled at.

Again, I *have* to rely on trust and continual trust and reliability to survive. 

And each time it happens, I die. 

Anyways, Those are the 2 biggest, and its totally 3 am. 

Thus, sleep time now.