So, Dear Anonymous people of this blog.
Actually, Can I call you Billy?
I do not need or want your criticism unless its positive, Billy. This is coming straight from the hit on my sister in the last post. The Liam Neeson comment, whether you think was silly, immature or whatever was a comment meant for me, not you, to cheer me up, out of love, because that's what sisters do. Therefore I am enacting a policy change that goes against the pledge I made once before.
As of this moment, any comment will be deleted with the following characteristics:
Is anonymous with the following:
Negativity
desire to tear down
Asking me to commit suicide
Producing criticism that is not relevant to the post.
If you are a friend of mine, and you are producing a comment, and it is not anonymous, I would have expected you to either talk to me before hand about the topic, or I know you well enough to know you don't hate me.
And the last criteria is if it was posted from the silly little stalker who comes onto the blog using the anonymous ip who originally was on here because they were stalking Cory Grant.
There are ways to produce criticism without it being in a demeaning, "you're failing way."
The comment in the previous post could have been said, "hey, its a little difficult to talk to you if the people who are talking to you feel like you're pushing them off" not "holy crap, look at you dumb little person, you can't even talk to people right"
Now.
I am allowed to do this with out being dramatic dumb or silly (Ready for all the caps?) BECAUSE ITS MY BLOG. I DO NOT NEED OR WANT *ANYTHING* you have to say. I already know what you have to say, and am working on it.
If you have something to say, you have my email, and you have access to twitter and facebook, or you can leave it with a name.
Mock me, try to tear me down whatever. I don't care. I will see your comments if you want to post them, but they will not remain depending on what I deem worthy of this blog. Your comments do not hurt me anymore. My "Growth" has seen to that.
People only feel the need to tear others down in the even that the others are doing better than they are.
Extinguishing another's candle does not make yours brighter. It doesn't. It just goes to prove you probably have something worse in your head than I have in mine.
I am not above the advice of others. Even as I've resisted this, It was at the advice of someone I trust to make good decisions that I act upon this.
Deal with it.
If you are one of those few, who leave anonymous posts, *cough*my sociopath friend* cough* I expect a text of some sort, or you allowing your phone to be put through my tracker so I don't delete your comment and so I take your comment seriously.
This is a place of healing. Go cut yourself if you want to destroy something.
Cheers!
Actually, Can I call you Billy?
I do not need or want your criticism unless its positive, Billy. This is coming straight from the hit on my sister in the last post. The Liam Neeson comment, whether you think was silly, immature or whatever was a comment meant for me, not you, to cheer me up, out of love, because that's what sisters do. Therefore I am enacting a policy change that goes against the pledge I made once before.
As of this moment, any comment will be deleted with the following characteristics:
Is anonymous with the following:
Negativity
desire to tear down
Asking me to commit suicide
Producing criticism that is not relevant to the post.
If you are a friend of mine, and you are producing a comment, and it is not anonymous, I would have expected you to either talk to me before hand about the topic, or I know you well enough to know you don't hate me.
And the last criteria is if it was posted from the silly little stalker who comes onto the blog using the anonymous ip who originally was on here because they were stalking Cory Grant.
There are ways to produce criticism without it being in a demeaning, "you're failing way."
The comment in the previous post could have been said, "hey, its a little difficult to talk to you if the people who are talking to you feel like you're pushing them off" not "holy crap, look at you dumb little person, you can't even talk to people right"
Now.
I am allowed to do this with out being dramatic dumb or silly (Ready for all the caps?) BECAUSE ITS MY BLOG. I DO NOT NEED OR WANT *ANYTHING* you have to say. I already know what you have to say, and am working on it.
If you have something to say, you have my email, and you have access to twitter and facebook, or you can leave it with a name.
Mock me, try to tear me down whatever. I don't care. I will see your comments if you want to post them, but they will not remain depending on what I deem worthy of this blog. Your comments do not hurt me anymore. My "Growth" has seen to that.
People only feel the need to tear others down in the even that the others are doing better than they are.
Extinguishing another's candle does not make yours brighter. It doesn't. It just goes to prove you probably have something worse in your head than I have in mine.
I am not above the advice of others. Even as I've resisted this, It was at the advice of someone I trust to make good decisions that I act upon this.
Deal with it.
If you are one of those few, who leave anonymous posts, *cough*my sociopath friend* cough* I expect a text of some sort, or you allowing your phone to be put through my tracker so I don't delete your comment and so I take your comment seriously.
This is a place of healing. Go cut yourself if you want to destroy something.
Cheers!
Laura,
ReplyDeleteThis unnamed, virtual loser is obviously completely obsessed with you. It takes the time to read and analyze every one of your posts- beyond what normal readers would. It is extremely egotistical and thinks what it has to say is important or intelligent even. If you continue to address it's obscure and aggressive comments, it will only keep doing it.
You are young, creative, and fun, but you are also hurting and going through some difficult things right now. You are smart to vent and express what you feel in such a healthy way, all while trying to make sense of it. Writing honestly and openly can be the greatest therapy, especially when people that love you can see what you are thinking and experiencing clearly.
Things like internet bullies thrive on attention because they do not get any of it in real life-- probably because they are greatly unpleasant and negative. They will always find the meanest, most controversial things to say because they know that people cannot help but comment back. And even though most people will hate them, they love the attention and feel powerful because they MADE others feel angry. Don't waste anymore energy or thoughts on such lowlifes.
If not fed, all parasites eventually find other hosts.
;)
I would imagine that Anon (THE Anon) prefers being called Knoxx. I also imagine that it holds the rank of General. (No offense Captain, please understand the reference.)
ReplyDeleteAnd good for you, Laura. Sometimes you just need to Police the crap out of things. Whether or not you're actually doing anything to help yourself is, again, irrelevant; however this COULD be a step in the right direction. I stress "COULD". As unhelpful as this message may be at the present time, so far you've walked the fine line between progress and high school drama queen- Never really advancing in either direction; retaining just enough validity in your claims to justify playing the victim, while at the same time playing the victim a little too hard.
Meh. I've got to go get ready. I'll write more later. Maybe.
Shouldn't you take all comments seriously regardless of who they're from? Even if they're negative, don't they have to have some sort of ground to even attack? Take them seriously, even if it's only to learn how to defend yourself better.
ReplyDeleteJust a strategic opinion from a Colonel.
i guess i have a name now?
ReplyDeletethoughts:
Negativity - my comments are only as negative as you take them to be. i make statements based on facts and observation
desire to tear down - sometimes, to strengthen the wall, you tear out the rot and replace it with something strong.
Asking me to commit suicide - nope ive never done this.
Producing criticism that is not relevant to the post. - everything i say in a comment is always directly responding to either the post or previous comments to that post
looking back at the last post, i am pretty sure i didnt say "holy crap, look at you dumb little person, you can't even talk to people right". i made a very coherent and logical statement. the only emotionally slanted word in the comment was "wow."
like ive said before, i just call it like i see it. and other people have agreed that i make sense.
but if you want to, go ahead and delete this. these comments arent for attention or self-aggrandizement. theyre pointing out reality.
oh. and since everybody commenting has a rank or something, ill be a master chief petty officer.
Technically, I never gave a rank for myself, I just called you a General. But I guess I'll be a Lieutenant Colonel. Does this mean I need to start calling Billy "Chief" now? I really would have preferred General Knoxx...
ReplyDeleteRemember Billy, whether or not you actually said it, Laura can choose to hear it. And thus the cycle continues.
I actually have to rescind my "General" comment. Because to be General, the Anon would have to stay Anon. :/
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ReplyDeletei figured the "general" was THE anon you were talking about was the anon who made the suicide comment. since thats not me i didnt think the rank applied.
and thinking about it, i dont like the name billy. it doesnt fit me anyway. im not going to use it.
plus, i dont have a secret armory.
While originally that was true, I figured that seeing "General Knoxx" over and over in the comments would make my day considerably funnier, so I let it slide.
DeleteAnd are you SURE you don't have a Secret Armoury?
Oy. My last comment faded into the mists of poofy blackness. Also, I've been watching too much Doctor Who and have an English accent running around in my head confusing my poor brain.
ReplyDeleteOk. So... First, I wanted to pat Laura on the back for her future moderationism (new word, wa-cha!)
Second, I wanted to talk to her Anon. Yesh, again. Just wanted to clarify something with him.
Hi! I don't know if you know me or not, but you at least know me well enough to know I'm a friend of Laura's who knows her personally.
I've been watching the back and forth between you long before I ever made my first comment long ago- (time passes too quickly, frak!)
And I've been watching Laura grow. (Not through her window)
I've seen her make progress since her discovery of her personality disorder. She's learned (and is still learning) how to fight back against it. But fighting against one's own mind is not easy- something I myself have to do. I probably have some personality disorder of my own stemming from issues concerning my birth mother (messy stuff, that) and the verbal and emotional abuse from my step-mum. So I know personally what it's like to literally fight what your past has dealt you, without your accord.
I've made mistakes since hearing that I need to fight my thoughts that were causing my own implosion.
How much progress have I made since I was told that two and half years ago?
Seemingly none. I don't really see it... But others do. Did my maturation into a real, self-providing adult speed up? Yes.
But I'm still not where I want to be.
You seem to claim that Laura never changes or that she merely does the same thing over and over- That she ignores what people say while trying to help her and then continue down some destructive path. I think that she doesn't. I think she files away what people say to her in some part of her that will find it and use it when she needs it, whether soon or not.
So, I clarified to you that change is not always obvious, whether to yourself or to others, especially when it is akin to moving mountains with a stick- albeit mental ones.
(Hopefully I did, I tend to blather)
Additionally... you said you are always relevant, correct?
Since when is blatant negativity of any sort relevant?- Example: "You guys are all crazy"- And that's just one example. Tell me, sir... where is the relevancy of that statement?
Furthermore- I think that if she is to receive criticism, it needs to be from people she trusts. I try not to criticize for this very reason- As she has reasons to not trust me. (I have abandoned her in the past, without due reason)
So please sir... at least stay relevant- and don't paint your past actions in a lighter coat than they've actually been.
Also, I love the first designation on the comments list... reminds me of HIMYM....
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ReplyDeleteThere are multiple anonymous people. That anonymous may or may not be the same one. And if they say they aren't trying to hurt. I'll.consider trusting them.
Everyone needs to realize that I will most likely take comments differently than they are meant.
You make a valid point Laura. I apologize for any insinuations that may have hurt anyone.
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condense your thoughts into something succinct. thanks.
Change is not always obvious, whether to yourself or to others, especially when it is akin to moving mountains with a stick- albeit mental mountains.
ReplyDeleteWhy do you spend your time worrying about the faults someone else presents when you should worry about your own?
If you truly believe Laura cannot change, why proclaim to her her faults?
In honesty as I sit and look at this particular anonymous.. which looks separate than suicide anonymous... I think they think I can succeed but they're trying to help me by not sugar coating it and by kicking me in the pants. And with suicide dude stresses us out and I am incapable of taking criticism the first time I hear or read through it because it "ruins eligibility for friendship"in my head as christopher puts it.
ReplyDeleteWhile I appreciate the sentiment of such a thing, considering that several people who love me have tried the exact same tactic, and it's helped me-
ReplyDeleteI personally think it should come from someone who isn't hiding their identity.
On the other hand... it may be that this person knows that you might be able to figure out their identity because of your compy skills- Whilst the people who are watching this might not be able to do the same thing, thus protecting them from any backlash.
well aint it grand you think so highly of me. so cute i could puke.
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